If you are becoming curious about what it would be like to experience multiple partners, threesomes or moresomes but don’t know how to convince your partner to play with you or you’re worried what they might think or say…STOP! You might be about to make the biggest mistake of your life. If you don’t get this part right or worse, you don’t tell them how you feel and go ahead and cheat, you could destroy you relationship.
Being in a committed relationship but sharing your sex life with others = Swinging! And before you freak out, no, there are no keys in a bowl and the lifestyle is not full of big, fat, hairy and ugly people… That’s so 3 decades ago.
Do you want to know what it’s like? Remember the amount of sex you had in the honeymoon phase of your relationship? Imagine another honeymoon phase, one which goes on for years… Seriously, we’ve been in the swinging lifestyle since 2006 and we’re still told we act like newlyweds!
You know the feelings I’m talking about, those ones which ignite when you meet someone that drives you wild! They radiate from the pit of your stomach, your groin area gets a rush of sensations with just one cheeky look from them or a whiff of their scent, it creates an insatiable desire to pull them into you, kiss them passionately and wildly explore each others delicious naked bodies with your hand and your tongues…
If that sounds like you then you’re in the right place and you are definitely not alone! Even I need a moment after that!
Swinging is the relationship option with the deepest integrity but also the most sensual and sexual fun a couple can indulge in together. Honestly, it’s the wildest adventure your relationship is ever likely to go on and it’s no rumour! I have to admit though, it took a while to for us to get it right.
It was after a week where I was away in another city participating in a personal development workshop. When you’re sharing your thoughts and feelings and allowing yourself to be vulnerable, it’s easy to connect and then be attracted to people who are in it with you, but I was married and to do anything about it would have been wrong, right?
I was very attracted to this gorgeous guy and much to my surprise, I ended up back at his place on the last night with a bottle of wine. It was hard not to feel excited when I realised the sexual attraction was definitely there on both sides. I was feeling very “Grrrr”… You know that feeling, the one where your body is practically aching for them to touch you, to feel their warm, moist lips pressed against yours as you kiss urgently and passionately, and have their warm, naked skin pressed hard up against your body… *breathes* Sorry, got lost there for a moment!
I desperately wanted to strip naked and get lost in a night of wild passion with him but there was a part of me, a part which reminded me of how important my husband and our relationship was, and I definitely didn’t want to do anything which would ruin it so I was open and honest with this hunk-of-a-man sitting in front of me. I said I would love to let go and indulge but my highest values were honesty and integrity so I couldn’t…
The experience was the trigger for me though, to see if I could find a way to indulge in wild passionate moments when the opportunity presented, but to also keep my awesome relationship… I wanted to have my cake and eat it too! So I decided to talk to my husband when I got home about being giving each other the freedom to enjoy sex with other people.
Ever felt that knot of dread in your tummy when you’re about to do something you know you should do, but really don’t want to? That’s how I felt… I really wanted him to say yes but was terrified he might say no, and if he said no, what would I do if I was faced with the same situation again?
When I presented the idea to him and did my best to address all of his fears up front, he, after a very long conversation, said “ok” with more discussions to be had. It was a somewhat reluctant ok but I was going to take it as a green light anyway. Through more discussions around boundaries and comfort levels, what we needed before and after any interlude, we fumbled our way through the beginning stages and found our feet along the way.
When I was first thinking about opening up our relationship, I was filled with a mixture of feelings. I was totally excited and tingly in all the right places at the thought of being able to flirt, kiss and have sex with someone new, at the same time I was worried as I know some of you are right now…
Swinging is easy to get right but easier easy to get wrong as it magnifies everything the relationship, the good and bad… In the time we’ve been swinging, we’ve seen couples whose relationships have either thrived or disintegrated once they started because they weren’t prepared, and they didn’t know how to deal with the extra complexities swinging brings.
It can be a dangerous transition if you or your partner are unprepared. If your relationship is not ready for the high level of maturity required for swinging to enhance your relationship on EVERY level, it could just as easily destroy it and I’m pretty sure you don’t want that. I sure didn’t!
We sailed through the ups and downs easier than most because of my professional training as a Relationship Coach.
Reading book after book, doing course after course, I learned how to create a thriving relationship with a sizzling sex-life before we even started swinging. As a result, I was able to navigate us through the ups and downs during our transition from ‘vanilla to swinger’.
We were just looking for a little adventure, fun and excitement in our sex life. What we got were turbo-boosted libidos, sizzling conversations, and a fulfilling and highly passionate sex life even when it was just the two of us. We grew a stronger bond, a deeper connection, and our lust for life bloomed in a big way. Who knew swinging would give us all of that and then some?
Our level of trust, security, love for each other and our ability to be honest with each other went through the roof because of swinging, and we thought we had high levels of it before!
This revelation led me to write ‘The Essential Guide for Adventurous Couples’. It was Swinging 101 in book form.
In my opinion it’s completely natural but some other people say these feelings are bad, wrong and mean you aren’t truly committed to your partner. I worried about all of that in the beginning, but I worked out, it’s all BS!
Much of it comes from religion (various forms of it) and programming which has been passed down and has done more damage than good. Think about it, how many relationships are destroyed through infidelity/cheating/affairs? Society will talk about those over swinging but which one is actually done with integrity?
I’ll try not to get on my soapbox but if we were truly meant to be monogamous, we’d have married the first person we had a relationship with and would never be attracted to anyone else… Ever! While that may be true for a small percentage of the population, the majority fall in love or enter many relationships.
Why do we continually try to force ourselves to live in a relationship box which is against our nature? Because we’ve been told that’s what’s “normal” or “that’s what being in a relationship means”.
Those who go force themselves to do and be a person which is against their nature, end up being miserable or end up doing what is more socially acceptable because they didn’t know another way existed. I know quite a few people who have tried to be in a monogamous relationship with all it’s boundaries and rules, then ended up cheating because they never dared to explore opening up their relationship, OR their partner shut down the idea, leaving them no other options to fulfil their innate desire which eventually got too strong to hold back anymore.
How to Get the Most out of the Swinging Lifestyle! A 5-part video course including: Getting involved, online strategies and templates, meeting strategies, handy tips, the do’s and don’ts, which were not covered in Swinger Lifestyle 101!
How To Increase Your Sexual Self-Confidence! A 3-part video course full of tips & techniques to make you a SEX GOD/DESS in bed (or wherever)! WOW your future playmates and intensify your orgasmic pleasure with each other!
The Essential Guide for Adventurous Couples Who want to Explore 3somes, 4somes & MOREsomes! In PDF format. A 200+ page ‘Swinging 101’ manual which is the most comprehensive Swinging How-To available, for those who prefer to read!
I honestly don’t want you to have something which isn’t full of value for your investment!
Once you are inside, you have a feedback system to inform me of any content which you feel should be included so I can add it! It is SUPER important to me that you gain the most value and are the most prepared to swing as a result of doing this course so I’ve made a point to include this feature.
You have lifetime access to the content, which includes any future content I create or update as the program evolves!
There are lots of websites out there sharing information about getting into swinging but less on how to prepare your relationship, or how to use the lifestyle to strengthen your relationship.
I see it all the time. People go into the lifestyle unprepared and their relationship not ready, then they come to me for coaching to help them get over the emotional fall-out. My minimum package is 5 hours for $1000 and many other coaching and psychologist professionals charge that and then some.
The sad part is, had they been prepared or able to assess their relationship as not being ready, they could have done less work to become rock solid than to fix the damage done by going in prematurely.
Everyone makes mistakes or bad decisions at some point! This course will help prevent them and also help you recover a hell of a lot quicker with a whole lot less pain and less financial cost…
PS: I know you’ve skipped down here to see what else I’d say, so hi!
PPS: If I can be so honest, I don’t know if you’re going to like or love what I’ve created in this program, all I can tell you is; I have poured my heart and soul into creating it for you because I don’t want to see any other relationships crumble by stumbling into this lifestyle unprepared…
PPPS: That said, we have had the MOST sexually stimulating times in the swinger lifestyle, and I think everyone should get to have this much FUN and WILD times with their partner! So, joining me today?
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